Why People Seek Revenge After a Break Up

Why do people seek revenge after breaking up? And what benefits are there to getting revenge on your ex?

Why People Seek Revenge After a Break Up



Crushed ego requires retaliation

This is where someone gets dumped and their arrogance won't let them see beyond the need to save face. The ex can't know how devastating the break up was so thoughts of revenge lean towards things like picking up new people at the bar and doing whatever is necessary to show that they are really the desirable one and not the ex. They just need to have that control and know that they are superior.

In this case the benefit probably goes to the one not sleeping around or seeking to be hurtful because now the decision to break up has been validated.

Desperate need for attention

A person can become extremely dependent upon their other half in a relationship. If that person is literally defining his or herself by that relationship, obviously there will be trouble if the other initiates a break up. Revenge in this case if fueled by insecurity. The act of revenge is likely to be less dramatic or hurtful than the ego case above because the love for the ex is real.

This type of revenge is usually not very effective and in fact could make it even less likely that the relationship can be mended unless the other person is also of the needy sort. The revenge might not be overly hurtful but also not constructive in any way.

Want the ex back

This person is wanting another chance with the relationship. Now, if able to get past the first few days of high emotions and confusing thoughts without taking any action, then thoughts might lead to acts of revenge that are actually positive and constructive. A stronger personality and a pretty independent outlook helps this person find ways to make the ex believe it was a mistake to break up.

This method for revenge can take awhile, but it is also the most likely to be successful in the long run. In fact, the person plotting revenge by bettering their own life in ways to make the ex take another look - they likely benefit whether the relationship is worked out or not. TRY TO BE IN THIS CATEGORY!

General lack of maturity

This individual might allow influence from friends and get talked into getting hurtful revenge on the ex. The so called friends are probably just thinking of the entertainment factor.

This one blows up in everyone's face so if this is you (and you can recognize it) you need to stay away from your friends until the break up is no longer fresh and you can think clearly.

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Meeting After Break Up - - 3 Worst Places to Meet Your Ex Girlfriend

It is pretty common for one or both people in the broken relationship to wonder if it should be given another chance. Even if both of you are warming up to this idea and have agreed to see each other, you need to be thinking about where and how to meet up, at least the first few times.

Meeting After Break Up - - 3 Worst Places to Meet Your Ex Girlfriend

Here is what NOT to do as we review the 3 worst places to meet with your ex girlfriend.

Meeting at one of your familiar "hang outs". Oh, so many of us make this exact mistake! Go someplace new and different to symbolize the possibilities of a fresh start.

Meeting at a place that will remind her of your lack of attention to her. The attention she wants is quiet moments, conversation without interruption, and you doing things that she loves and you don't. Not expensive dinners or gifts.

Meeting in a place where she could feel like she is competing for your attention at that very moment.



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How to Flirt With Girls After Break Up To Build Confidence

You are about to enter the exciting but maybe slightly dangerous world of flirting. Why not? You and your girlfriend broke up. You are thinking that trying to pick up girls could do wonders for your damaged self confidence.

How to Flirt With Girls After Break Up To Build Confidence

If you want to know how to flirt with girls after that nasty breakup destroyed your confidence, read on for a few pointers and observations:

- Flirting works best when you have no objective or expectations. A woman knows when a guy is trying too hard or if he seems desperate for her.

- Flirting does not have to be the direct approach. A woman might be more likely to get a little quiver from a guy that seems to be just making conversation but not showing any intentions.

- Flirting is contagious. Know the benefits and the dangers.

- Flirting with your ex girlfriend might be more fun than you think. If the two of you had been doing this, maybe you still be together?



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Stages After Break Up - - What Stage Are You in?

It is helpful to recognize the most common stages after a break up.

Stages After Break Up - - What Stage Are You in?

Stage #1 -- Dazed and Confused.
The world has stopped for you. You had been spending all of your time with your ex and all of a sudden you are alone. Where do you go from here?

Stage #2 -- Angry here, Sad there.
Good riddance you say. After all, now you can do your own thing and no worries about the other half's opinion. Oh wait, maybe it was kind of great having someone to share your secrets with and sharing a warm bed wasn't bad either.

Stage #3 -- Reality Check.
You are starting to see the light but you don't really like what you see. At least the emotions are starting to wear off which is good.

Stage #4 -- Spoil Yourself.
It might be the subtle things like treating yourself to that dessert you crave or go spend time with an old friend that you have missed. Or it might be less subtle like joining a dating service or getting a make over. Your choice. The diversions might be fun but won't bring any new meaning to your life.



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Rebound Dating - 3 Best Reasons To Avoid Rebound Dating

Single again. Lonely. You want your ex back, but right now you are confused about why your relationship has failed. You are depressed a little bit, so now you are thinking maybe a little social mingling and dating new people would take away the loneliness.

Rebound Dating - 3 Best Reasons To Avoid Rebound Dating

Guess what, that is rebound dating. Don't do it. Here are the 3 best reasons to avoid rebound dating!

1) A rebound relationship almost always ends badly.

2) You will most likely be taken advantage of.

3) You are denying yourself the chance to reflect on what has gone wrong with you and your ex.

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