Why People Seek Revenge After a Break Up
Crushed ego requires retaliation
This is where someone gets dumped and their arrogance won't let them see beyond the need to save face. The ex can't know how devastating the break up was so thoughts of revenge lean towards things like picking up new people at the bar and doing whatever is necessary to show that they are really the desirable one and not the ex. They just need to have that control and know that they are superior.
In this case the benefit probably goes to the one not sleeping around or seeking to be hurtful because now the decision to break up has been validated.
Desperate need for attention
A person can become extremely dependent upon their other half in a relationship. If that person is literally defining his or herself by that relationship, obviously there will be trouble if the other initiates a break up. Revenge in this case if fueled by insecurity. The act of revenge is likely to be less dramatic or hurtful than the ego case above because the love for the ex is real.
This type of revenge is usually not very effective and in fact could make it even less likely that the relationship can be mended unless the other person is also of the needy sort. The revenge might not be overly hurtful but also not constructive in any way.
Want the ex back
This person is wanting another chance with the relationship. Now, if able to get past the first few days of high emotions and confusing thoughts without taking any action, then thoughts might lead to acts of revenge that are actually positive and constructive. A stronger personality and a pretty independent outlook helps this person find ways to make the ex believe it was a mistake to break up.
This method for revenge can take awhile, but it is also the most likely to be successful in the long run. In fact, the person plotting revenge by bettering their own life in ways to make the ex take another look - they likely benefit whether the relationship is worked out or not. TRY TO BE IN THIS CATEGORY!
General lack of maturity
This individual might allow influence from friends and get talked into getting hurtful revenge on the ex. The so called friends are probably just thinking of the entertainment factor.
This one blows up in everyone's face so if this is you (and you can recognize it) you need to stay away from your friends until the break up is no longer fresh and you can think clearly.
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